Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself in a firm manner, but with respect for the boundaries of others. For a leader, this means the ability to set clear boundaries, make decisions and take responsibility for them. It is also a way to build authority and relationships based on mutual respect.

An assertive leader is not only able to say “no”, but also is aware of their own values, is open to constructive criticism and cares about authentic communication. A leader who can be assertive manages the team more effectively and also inspires them to better cooperation and independence.

Assertiveness and other styles of behavior – key differences

There are three main ways of reacting to social situations:

• Withdrawing behavior – avoiding confrontation, not expressing your own opinions, agreeing to everything, even at the expense of your own boundaries.
  • Examples: “I don’t know, maybe someone else could take care of it…“, “I don’t have time, but if you really care, I’ll manage it somehow.”

• Aggressive behavior – imposing your will on others, ignoring their boundaries, using pressure and manipulation.
  • Examples: “Do it now or we’ll have a problem!”, “I need it yesterday. This has to be your priority.”
    
• Assertive behavior – expressing your own opinions and needs while respecting the other party.
  • Examples: “I can’t deal with this now, but I can do it tomorrow by noon.”, “I understand that it’s urgent, but I need more information to make the right decision.”

Assertiveness doesn’t mean being selfish or inflexible, but being aware of your own needs and capabilities, and taking into account other people’s boundaries.

How can you develop your assertiveness as a leader?

Developing assertiveness takes practice and conscious action. You can use the following ideas to practice assertiveness in everyday work situations:

1. “Assertive Sentences” Exercise – Every day, consciously try to formulate at least one assertive sentence. For example, instead of saying, “I don’t know if this will work,” say, “I can’t do this right now. How else can you approach this? Who else can you talk to?”
2. The Broken Record Technique – If someone is pressuring you to make a decision, repeat your position in a calm and firm manner. For example, “I understand your request, but I can’t do it right now.” Repeat this several times, without going into unnecessary explanations.
3. Emotion Monitoring – Pay attention to moments when you feel pressured to agree to something against your will. At such moments, take a deep breath and say, “I need a moment to think about this.” This gives you time to make a conscious decision instead of an impulsive reaction.

Why is it worth being an assertive leader?

Imagine a team where everyone knows what to expect – the leader clearly communicates their expectations, but at the same time provides space for dialogue. This is how assertiveness works in management. Thanks to it, you build an atmosphere of mutual respect and trust, eliminate unnecessary tensions and create an environment in which people are happy to cooperate with each other.

Assertiveness is not just a competence, but a leadership style that allows you to effectively manage and at the same time take care of your own needs. It gives you self-confidence, but without aggression, decisiveness, but without imposing your will on others. It is a tool that will allow you to become a leader that the team appreciates and trusts. Start now – in small steps, and you will see what a huge difference it can make in your daily work.