I once worked with a team where one of the programmers was extremely precise. He cared a lot about what he called “technical excellence”. He believed that the code should be written in a way that would not cause any problems or raise any doubts in the future. You may say – “But that’s how it should be”. Hmmm… As with everything – it depends 🙂
We live in a world of catchy frameworks and methods. Companies want to be agile, they want to be effective, they are looking for modern management methods. They train, implement, improve… In this rush, understanding goals and “heading towards the same goal” takes on new meaning. We often experience chaos, disorder and unpredictability, which causes frustration and fuels conflicts.
In 2017 I started writing down 1-2 goals at the beginning of each year. It all began with my health. The stomach pain became unbearable, and all tests were OK. Unfortunately, it turned out that it was most likely stress. For me, it meant I had to slow down and calm down. Easy to say, I thought, smiling through my tears.
Dreams are like wings that lift us above everyday life, giving color and meaning to our lives. I have dreamed of traveling to Iceland for many years. I looked at photos on the Internet, listened to the stories of friends who were there and I wanted to go there someday. I was waiting for the right moment – when the children would be older, when there would be more time…
Holidays should be a time of joy, love and spending time together with family. “Should” is key here, because this word often acts as pressure. As a result, for many of us, the holiday season also becomes a time of stress and conflict.
So what’s going on here? And what can we do about it?
In my work and everyday family life, I have always paid (and still do) great attention to development. I read a lot and trained myself to do everything better and more effectively. Each time I was gaining new knowledge and ideas, I wanted immediately to implement them in my life. And usually I was met with misunderstanding, frustration and, on top of that, my inner critic who scolded me for every failure.